In my work with couples, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy. Couples seeking counseling to improve their relationships find this method a very beneficial approach, as it helps people better understand their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. In my work with couples, I help facilitate the creation of secure and lasting bonds between the partners to create security, closeness and connection in their intimate relationships.
Emotionally Focused Therapy is based in attachment theory, which is the concept that people are healthier when they have emotional closeness and need to feel safe in their connection to their partner. In EFT, it is believed that when intimate partners are not able to meet each other's emotional needs, they become stuck in negative patterns of interaction driven by ineffective attempts to get each other to understand their emotions and related needs.
In therapy, I help couples reconnect and begin to understand each other's important emotional needs and insecurities in the relationship. With this understanding, they can begin to reconstruct their relatonship, by learning how to respond to each other in a more romantic, loving and emotionally connected way, resulting in a more secure attachment.
Emotionally Focused Therapy has been studied extensively and scientific research indicates that couples who have particpated in EFT show a marked decrease in distress in their relationships and continued positive effects of the treatment after therapy concluded.
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a series of approximately 8-10 sessions.
As a faith based counselor, I also integrate the biblical principles of marriage in my couples sessions if the couple is faith based.